Mom friends, how many of us have them?! Since becoming a stay at home mom, it is hard to get together with my non mom friends. They don't understand working around nap time or having to be near a restroom. They are free on the weekends and I am beat on the weekends! But this is where your mom friends come in, the ladies who understand your daily struggle lol. Here are some tips to find and keep your #MomTribe.
How to FIND mom friends:
- Leave the house! Mom friends aren't going to magically show up at your front door, you have to get out and socialize.
- Spark up conversations at the playground or other kid friendly places. Chances are the moms that are out and about during the day are stay at home moms and you should have an easier time connecting and meeting up with them.
- Join Facebook groups for moms in your area. There are groups for practically groups for everything on Facebook. I have meet some of my best mom friends in Facebook groups.
- Search local hashtags on Instagram. I do this all the time and I follow some wonderful local mommies. Maybe ill have the courage one day to ask them on a playdate!
How to KEEP mom friends:
- Keep in touch! You don't have to call everyday but a text every now and then to check in is great.
- Write down your playdates. It sucks to have a playdate planned and you get stood up, not only for you but your child who wants to see their friend. Write down playdates in your planner or use your phone to keep track.
- Set up mom dates too! I love seeing my mom friends on weekends without the kiddies. Something simple like ice cream or go all out for a moms night out! Either way, it forms a deeper connection that just being moms.
I only have a handful of 'mom friends', but they're awesome! We keep in touch with the occasional text, but we all understand how crazy motherhood is, so none of us get offended if we don't get a reply for several days...haha! This was an awesome post with some great points. :)
ReplyDeleteGreat tips!
ReplyDeleteAll great tips! Having mommy friends is essential to staying sane! Some of my best friends I have now are all a part of my mom tribe!
ReplyDeleteThe local hashtag one is great. I've connected with a couple mom's that way. I'd say reach out and send a DM. I'm glad I did.
ReplyDeleteGreat tips that we all need! I find reaching out does wonders!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a struggle for me! I'm great at making small talk, but when it comes to connecting long-term, I always fall short. These are great tips!
ReplyDeleteGreat tips! Had to laugh at the idea of Mom friends just showing up at my house. Maintaining positive friendships is a great form of self care. I love going out with my Mom friends. We often do something super fun and let the kids come along as well. Sometimes we go out for pizza and other times we might go paint ceramics. When we paint the kids usually hang out at one end of the table and the adults at the other end allowing us all time to chat with friends.
ReplyDeleteLove these tips, simple but so true. Moms are the best!
ReplyDeleteI SO need to work on this. Thanks for the great tips for this loner. ;)
ReplyDeleteThese are such great tips, April! I def need the help because I am trying to build a mom tribe of my own. I feel alone sometimes as most of my friends here don't have children and don't really understand what it's like being a SAHM/WAHM. Thank you so much for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI only have mom friends in my life now lol and it's really fun to be around and share some common things
ReplyDeleteLove the use of hashtags on IG...super innovative and a great idea! And yes, mom dates are essential. Great read
ReplyDeleteThis is interesting to read from the flip-side as a non-mom who is losing all her friends to the mom-tribe. I guess it's inevitable that my mom-friends begin to feel that they have little in common with me after baby comes. At least I can apply these tips to find some new non-mom friends too;)
ReplyDeleteI love how you have thought outside of the "normal" box by looking for hashtags and FB groups. It is so hard to keep mom friends. I only have a few and I keep them close and nuture those relationships as much as I can.
ReplyDeleteGreat tips! I've found it very hard to make new friends as an adult- and even harder to find mom friends. Next time I'm at the playground I'm going to work up the courage to start a conversation!
ReplyDeleteI hope you do!
DeleteThese are great tips! It's so hard to find mom friends at this stage in life. As a full-time working mom, I think it's even more difficult since I'm limited to evenings and weekends. I have found some great Facebook groups for local moms - but I've never tried the hashtag idea. I'll be checking that out. Thanks! :)
ReplyDeleteThese are really awesome tips. It really is difficult finding a group of mom friends at this age - but it's so important to have them!
ReplyDeleteSuch a great post, I move lots with my husbands job and making friends is something I am always doing. I have found this easier since having my daughter, your right about starting off conversations it just takes courage. Thanks for sharing.
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DeleteApril and Ava, this is awesome. It really is hard to find mom friends - especially for you to like the mom and the kids to like each other! My mom friends and I also do sleepover swaps so that we can get date nights in with our spouses too. #momtribe indeed!
ReplyDeleteI've never thought to look on Instagram! Great idea!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the tips. It doesn't seem like it should be hard to find mom friends, but it is!
ReplyDeleteIt's like dating lol.
DeleteI need more mom friends- they are hard to find when you are working. I wish there was a MOPS group or something for working moms :) Great post!
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